Saturday, March 30, 2019

3 Realistic Ways To Become A Stay At Home Mom

I remember when I first wanted to be a sahm (stay at home mom). It was when Brooklyn started hitting all her milestones & I realized I never wanted to miss a single one. At that time, she was either with me or her dad throughout the day but I started praying it into existence at that point: "I will be a stay at home mom".

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Fast forward 1 year & another baby later, my husband said those magical words: “you don’t have to work anymore”. Talk about an emotional roller coaster. I felt so many things but mostly excitement. We had started our own business & it was doing great, I couldn't have felt more blessed at that moment!

How complete I felt knowing I'd get to be home with my babies is my reason for wanting to show you & other moms how to get there too. Every parent should have this opportunity if they want it! So let's start planning: 

First things first before up & quitting your current job:

1. Figure Out Your Bills & What You Can Reduce

Converting life to 1 income can seem stressful, but it really doesn't have to be. There's so many things we spend on that are not NECESSARY to our quality of life. Here are some ideas to be able to take the plunge:

• Go cheaper on anything you can: phone service, cable, internet, gym, etc. We changed our phone plan to lower the bill, cancelled our satellite service & switched to a Roku Ultra (such an awesome streaming device!), switched to a lower-cost gym, minimized internet speed. These cuts not only improved our bills but hardly effected our lifestyle!

• Conscious Utility Usage: set thermostat higher, use energy efficient appliances & fans, turn lights off, don't let the water run, etc. Being aware of our usage lowered our electricity bill significantly.

• Pay off anything you can! The less payments the bread winner has to make, the better. This includes loans of any kind, credit cards, cars, & the like. 

2. What can you personally go without or DIY, to be home?

There's quite a few extra expenses you can cut out to make it more affordable to be home. After all, staying home with your little(s) is the goal right? Let's keep our eye on the prize. Consider cutting back/out:

- Nails appointments
- Hair appointments
- Waxing
- Subscriptions (think Ipsy, FabFitFun, Fabletics, etc)
- Gym upgrades
- Daily Starbucks runs
- Fast food

You'd be surprised how much money this will save you & your family over a month!

3. Can You Handle All The Responsibility of Being Home?

In some cases, you may have help if you decide to stay home. A nanny or house cleaner is a dream. But if that is not an option for you (like it wasn't for me) there is a lot more that goes into staying home than JUST caring for baby.

You new daily tasks may include:

• All things baby: diaper changes, feedings, baths, playtime, bedtime so on & so forth..

• Household tasks: dishes, cleaning, cooking.

• All the laundry: & let me just warn you, its never ending. Accept that now lol.

• Grocery shopping: this is actually not too difficult if you use a pick up service. All you have to do is go get it. We've been using the heck out of Wal-Mart Grocery pick-up & it has been an absolute life saver. I will legit cry if it ever goes away. This link will get you $10 on your first pick-up order. You could always see if your local supermarket has a delivery service as well, for added convenience!

I hope this helps in getting you started on staying home, if you’re already a SAHM let me know what you do to make life easier! Xo.
6 comments on "3 Realistic Ways To Become A Stay At Home Mom"
  1. I stayed home with my kids and I was glad that I was able to do so. Now they are big kids and I need to escape them every once in awhile! Lol, teenagers are so much fun (actually most of the time they are, but sometimes....)

    1. Lol! I can partially relate. We shall see how I do when they become teens!

  2. I chose to be a SAHM too because I wanted to take care of my kids and yes, you really have to think of those things you can do without to stay on budget.

  3. I can only imagine how scary it can be to go from two incomes to one. These tips for staying on budget are so smart!

    1. Yes it’s nerve wracking at first! Thanks for reading!

  4. I'm not a mother yet, but I think it's so cool to be a sahm.